Compersion vs. cuckold

Dear Sasha, I was quite disconcerted with your reply to Desperate Puppy [“Cuckold Me,” Dec. 22], so much so that I feel compelled to respond. It was so very uncharacteristic of you, and not at all what I’ve “come to expect from this forum.” It makes me think that it might not have been you who wrote the reply. I believe it takes a great deal of courage and no less amount of trust to confide in your partner about your fantasies—because it can leave a person open to ridicule and seclusion. Maybe there’s more to her letter …

Cuckold me

Dear Sasha, I have a problem with my boyfriend’s fantasy. I don’t know if I’m the one freaking out, but he has a thing about me having sex with another guy or even telling him when I find a man hot. In my view, this is just wrong. I wouldn’t want him to do that, but at the same time I feel selfish because I can’t fully satisfy his needs. We tried to watch porn while having sex and what turns him on is when I stare at the screen and imagine that I’m having sex with the guy from …

My man is boring me to tears

Dear Sasha, I wish I knew what was wrong with me.

I have an amazing man, who loves me and is very dedicated and faithful, hardworking and a good father to his son. He’s very set in his ways, likes what he likes and is very unwilling to change. This bodes well for his dedication to me, and I find that immensely comforting and love him dearly for it.

But there’s a problem. I’m bored to tears! The routine is suffocating me. I’ve tried to bring it up with him, but he just gets upset and takes it personally. No …

Threesomes and scat

Dear Sasha, My awesome wife of 10-plus years wants to sleep with women—correction, wants us to sleep with women. This makes both of us hot and bothered, and we’re going to try a threesome. More so, my gal wants us to hire an escort, which I’m also cool with.

We’re trying to educate ourselves on the sex trade and have been looking at many local escort websites, but don’t know how to determine if a service provider is good, or more specifically, doesn’t exploit vulnerable and marginalized women. We want our escort to be a willing, consenting professional. Any tips …

Sexless and suffering

Dear Sasha, My wife and I are in our 20s. We’ve been married for about a year and a half and have been together off and on since 2005. I love her very much, but I’m not getting what I need out of this relationship: sex. She’s never been a sex maniac but these days things are becoming extreme. Sex is so important to me physically and mentally that without it I’ve noticed that all aspects of my life suffer. I become an unhappy, depressed and boring person, my confidence is shot and I feel like a perverted fiend.

I …

It’s a date

Dear Sasha, A few years ago, I hired a dating coach. We met at a pub, we chatted for a while for him to get to know me then he gave me feedback. This was followed up with an e-mail providing a written guide on how to date. His advice basically came down to suggestions on wardrobe and how to act. The dating advice was a toned down version of what Pick-Up Artists hawk on their websites. I didn’t find the expe­rience too useful, because it was mostly canned advice.

I finally realized that what I need is the blunt …

Bleaching your butthole

Dear Sasha, I enjoy anal sex, but I dislike my brownish coloured winky. (I hate the term asshole, it rings badly in my ears, actually I don’t like the term “hole” to describe a mouth, pussy or ass, it sounds crude!!) Anyway that’s beside the point. I want to light­en things up and have been out of luck!

Please don’t tell me to accept it. The truth is I have a thing with being very clean. I shower to feel fresh in the morning, shower before bed to feel fresh, if I workout I shower afterwards, and in the summer …

Threesome dreamin’

Dear Sasha, I’ve been married for 16 great years. My wife and I talk dirty and have great sex. I wanna take it one step further and have a threesome. Some days she’s okay with the idea and other times she says no. How do I make this happen without her getting upset? She has a hard time seeing me with another women for some reason. Looking forward to your response.

—Vexmann

Dear Vexmann, The thing you do not want to do is spring a threesome on your unsuspecting wife. Something you may have noticed when you cruise escort websites …

Looking for a rump to thump

Dear Sasha, I was told that maybe you could help me. I’m interested in spanking and would like to spank a girl who consents to being spanked. Are there any places where I could meet someone who would like to be spanked or has a fetish such as this?

—Paul

Dear Paul, I don’t know if you’ve heard of this thing called “the Internet.” All you have to do is type in the words of what you want and you can have it. Type in “knitting with dog hair” for exam­ple. You’ll find a book that shows you how to …

Ass kissing and electrostimulation

Dear Sasha, For what it’s worth, “You have turned a complex, erogenous and essential body part into a Doris Day song” [“Bleaching your butthole,” March 8], is by far one of the funniest lines I’ve ever read in print. Thank you for making me laugh out loud, and thank you in advance for the certain chuckling over the next few days.

On the subject of asses, it seems I’m kissing yours right now. While I’m at it, kudos for being willing to help out that fellow by going on a date with him, hopefully pointing out whatever bothersome …