Dear Sasha: I'm considering hiring an escort for my girlfriend's and my third anniversary. I want it to be a surprise and was wondering if you had any recommendations. She has shown an interest in women before, and an escort seems like more of a sure thing than trying to find someone through the personals. » Some Three for Three Years

Dear Some Three,
I always thought the "surprise, honey" hooker was such a sweet idea, until I realized why: because I would love, love, love if my boy- or girlfriend hired a special-occasion escort for me. If I ever gave glib advice on how to set this in motion, please know it came from - to employ the word I conceived to characterize the condition of being earnest and horny - a hornest place.

In my enthusiasm, I never thought to consult any sex workers on this scenario, but recently a friend directed me to a great blog by a Seattle Domme named Matisse (http://mistressmatisse.blogspot.com/). She also writes a column called "Control Tower" for Seattle's weekly The Stranger. In her blog, she records some of her professional dealings, including the Stupid Phone Call of the Day. She recently documented one from a guy looking to engage her services for a surprise for his girlfriend. She told him under no circumstances would she do something like this without talking to the woman first. As she writes, "Perhaps you're wondering, ‘Gee, could she have had a bad experience in a similar situation?' Allow me to inform you that you cannot begin to imagine the apocalypse that can be wreaked by an irate spouse under such circumstances. I myself don't have to imagine it - I was there. But I left, expeditiously. Pity the fool who had to stay behind, in a presumably vain attempt to prevent all his worldly possessions from being flung out a window six stories down to the concrete below."

This exchange, in that it involves domination, may be a bit different than what you have in mind, but I think you can apply the same logic to a more "traditional" professional sex exchange too. Surprises can be surprising for everyone.

Dear Sasha: I'm trying to find info on the T-Spot in relation to the G-Spot in a woman. If you can help, I'd appreciate it. » Rick

Dear Rick,
Here we go again, girls! Someone heard something about some magical spot in the vagina that'll have us screaming like banshees and now we're all in for poke and snoop and prod everlasting.

As Cathy Winks writes in The Good Vibrations Guide to the G-Spot, "One person's sexual discovery is another person's commercial opportunity." Rick, I looked around for references to this T-Spot and I found one vague mention, but nothing that I would earmark for you, or even swindling manufacturers with designs to assist the novice spelunker. (Speaking of commodities, I must mention what has got to be my favourite sexual product placement to date. By now you've all been inundated with Cialis spam so you know it's an erectile-dysfunction medication. Well I saw one of those parking lot entry systems with the bar that lifts when you insert money or a code with a, you guessed it, Cialis logo on it. Har, har, har.)

What you may be looking for, and may I stress again how different each woman is anatomically and sexually, is an area that some women enjoy having stimulated. In the aforementioned book, several interviewees describe a spot near the cervix "as being a highly erogenous zone. Upon arousal, the uterus tends to elevate, while the inner lining of the vagina expands (what's often referred to as "ballooning"), creating a sort of cul-de-sac behind the cervix. Some women find that pressure deep inside the vagina behind the cervix is a uniquely pleasurable sensation."

For my part, I have known women to buck like a bee-stung horse when this part of their pussy is rubbed or thrust at, but go ahead, try your techniques on the ladies. Gives us something to giggle about over drinks.

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