Dear Sasha: I’m looking for a supplier of urethral sounding rods made of stainless steel in diameters from 10 millimetres up to 18 millimetres. I would greatly appreciate any help, as I’m currently using a 12 mm sounding rod and I need a 14 mm rod to finish off my stretching. My wife can get her pinky inside me to the second knuckle, and when she can get it in to the knuckle on her fist she will ritually pierce my frenum in front of a group of women. This is a marking ceremony/ritual and is my lifelong fantasy. I’m spending a fortune at various machine shops, but a whole series of 12, 13, 14 sounding rods would make it a faster process. Can you please help? » Randy Ron
Dear Ron,
Northbound (1323 Ste-Catherine E.) carries stainless steel sounding rods in a variety of gauges but they are calibrated in fr, a French method of measurement. For more information on how this relates to millimetres, look at www.chaseunion.com/
documents/urethra/differ.htm. In fact, bookmark the entire Chase Union site. There are great tips on sterilizing your sounds and other vital details.
Judging by the photo you sent (hope you don’t mind if I use it for a friend’s upcoming birthday card: “Have a Hole Lotta Fun This Year!”), the item inserted in your penis looks really clean (and what the hell is it, if you don’t mind me asking?) but I’d err on the side of caution when it comes to sticking things in my peehole.
Steel comes in various grades, and you could possibly develop an infection from a lower grade. Sounding rods were used before antibiotics to ream out a gonorrhoea-mangled urethra. You don’t want to give yourself similar symptoms using substandard ones, do you? Sounding rods are also designed specifically for bodily insertion, so they accommodate the natural curve of the urethra. They are also surprisingly inexpensive. One hundred dollars will get you a set of eight double-ended sounds.
Dear Sasha: I’m very happily married, very sexually satisfied and very into porn. My wife and I couldn’t be better off together, but for some reason I can’t let go of my fascination with porno videos and softcore Taschen books.
She has clearly expressed that she has no interest in this, so I’ve kept my predilection to myself. My problem is that I know I can’t keep this a secret forever, nor would I want to keep anything from her. But how do you go about enjoying graphic content when it grosses out your spouse? » Phillius
Dear Phillius,
Once again I marvel that people make this kind of long-term pledge somehow anticipating it will extinguish all other forms of desire and that they are amazed that, even though their sex life is healthy and satisfying, they still long for other forms of sexual diversion. Honestly, a little porn and some ponderously refined hedonism (yes, that would be Taschen. How they manage to render even the most Teutonic erotica completely antiseptic is a mystery) as an accomplice to a healthy relationship? Sounds pretty gnarly to me.
You need to get to the root of your wife’s objection, and “because it’s disgusting” isn’t good enough. Incontestable contempt shuts the door to any logical communication, and promotes a covert atmosphere. Anyone who agrees to spend eternity with you owes you at least an opportunity to really analyze conflicting interests, and vice versa.
People often have really legitimate reasons for finding sexually explicit material offensive, but they don’t feel comfortable or safe verbalizing them. They associate it with a creepy person who did creepy stuff to them at some point in their life. Like many people, creepy people occasionally take an interest in pornography, and unfortunately those to whom they have been creepy end up getting exposed to it via them in unhealthy and exploitative ways. Porn can have a jarring effect on a person as it is utterly unequivocal. Its one and only purpose is to turn you on—in essence, it is sex propaganda. But people need to learn how to expand on their strong reactions without feeling threatened. Two books that may help facilitate conversation: For Each Other by Lonnie Barbach and The Good Vibrations Guide to Adult Videos. Both available at Venez Tels Quels (5247 St-Laurent).
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