DEAR SASHA: At age 13 it was discovered that my testosterone level was twice the normal level. This resulted in scads of embarrassing hair growth (hirsutism), a sex drive that was off the charts, and, so I’m told, enlarged labia minora and a sizeable clit. Imagine my frustration when my strong urge to be one with the boys was thwarted by my furriness!
I’ve since consulted several highly recommended endocrinologists, and have tried hormone therapy, electrolysis and laser techniques, all without success. It’s something I have grudgingly learned to live with, and the lush lips are something I’m still learning to love.
The reason I’m writing to you is because I need help finding men who are fond of hairy/earthy women. And yes, I still do shave and pluck and have my legs waxed and sugared regularly, so I’m taking steps to manage the fur. Without sounding immodest, I have no trouble meeting men because I am quite regularly described as "a real looker" and "easy on the eyes." This is particularly agonizing because, although I feel confident about my exterior, I’m growing less confident about the reality beneath the clothes.
Every poll I’ve ever read about turn-offs for men places hairy legs at the top, and it doesn’t help that we’re going through a period of extreme vanity in which even men have succumbed to the hairless trend. To compound matters, large labia are also the subject of considerable negative press, and plastic surgeons urge us to lop off the offending skin. What I’d like from you is the Web site and/or path to smart, decent men who aren’t turned off by less-than-airbrushed perfection - men who can get a hard-on for a sexy, smart woman who, through no fault of her own, is furry and lush of labia. » Large-Lipped, Furry and Fabulous
Dear LLFF,
Men who like hairless and, not to mention, fat-free women may genuinely represent a certain majority, but all that means is you have to look a little harder to find your treasure. Using polls to evaluate your place in the world is just plain wrong anyway. Have you ever seen what most people like to read and watch and wear and eat? Borrring.
Check out Pam Winter’s site called "Hair to Stay" (www.hairtostay.com) It features the regular porn and hustle, but in the past nine years that Winter has been working on Hair to Stay (it started as a print publication and, even though she stopped doing that three and a half years ago, she still gets calls about it every day), it has turned into a shaggy empire, with Winter now at the helm of about 30 hair-loving Web sites. She knows your pain, as she too, is a hirsute woman (thereby sharing, as other hirsute women do, some of your other special attributes) living in a smooth world.
"She needs to visit hairychat.com," Winter says by e-mail, referring to one of the links on Hair to Stay. "She’ll find total acceptance from the men there, and there are many women she can talk to. We have a private board for sharing more personal information. You can post there anonymously - your IP is not shown, your e-mail can be hidden if you choose, so it’s very safe."
I had a look at the personals posted on Hair to Stay, and sure, while some of them read like the frantic label of Dr. Bronner’s castile soap, others are truly articulate, some with the added bonus of pictures of some extra-special cuties. Check out the one guy who’s a student specializing in Titanic studies and won’t sleep until he’s found a girl with a bush the size of Nebraska! This fellow and more join discussions groups on hairychat, too.
"Women need to be able to be natural and not worry about what others think of them," says Winter. "They need a place online to feel comfortable when discussing this. That’s why I love hairychat - my guys there are, for the most part, very understanding and will give a lot of encouragement. And she will certainly appreciate being able to speak to other women in the same boat."
Got any questions for Sasha? Write her at
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Fax: 393-3173
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