Dear Sasha, I’ve recently started working in the sex industry, but am naïve to everything about it. I’m working for a man who has us—as far as I know there are only four of us at the moment—wait for calls with him at his house. He’s had other interviews but the girls haven’t stayed. I make half what I earn, so about 90 to 100 dollars depending on the call.
The man seems nice. He feeds us, arranges all the calls for us and gets drivers. But I’m having trouble getting used to performing oral sex for him every time I come to work. He asks the other girls too and they comply, so I do as well. I’m content with the arrangement but would like to know if this is standard or not.
Dear Naïve,
Get your hands on a copy of Constellation, the magazine put out by Stella, Montreal’s superstar sex worker support group. The latest edition is an unblinking and comprehensive guide to the various niches of the sex trade and the regulations around them in Canada.
Beginning with a chapter on laws, each one that follows provides fucking brilliant first person accounts about specific services (porn, outcalls, incalls, working the street, stripping, massage), practical tips on doing the job safely and important questions you’ll want to ask prospective employers. The relatively new topic of review sites and how they might impact you is thoroughly considered, along with a complete glossary of service terms used by punters.
Different agencies have different policies around fees and such so it’s really up to you to choose one that best suits your needs—and you will find many that charge you less and allow you to be picked up and dropped off wherever you choose. Free blowjobs for the boss, however, should not be compulsory; at the very least it would be nice if a condom were part of the deal.
Constellation is free for sex workers and 15 dollars for civilians. You can read parts of it online at chezstella.org but the hard copy contains vital information not posted, so I’d suggest getting one by either ordering online or picking one up at the office.
And this will be of interest to both professional and amateur fuckers: there’s a new condom on the market. The Durex Bare is made of a synthetic latex called polyisoprene and is apparently not just an adequate alternative for people with latex allergies but a damn fine rubber all around. This at least according to my intern Dimitri, who, since I have no penis bearing love interests at the moment, was dispatched to the tubs with a twelve pack to conduct some tests. He came back with these findings (and one condom left, the lazy little shit): “Size doesn’t matter in this case,” he enthuses. “The first thing I noticed is that a 56mm diameter in a polyisoprene condom is very comfortable—I was worried when I looked at the box that these would be too big—but these ones stay on more snugly at the base than the 52mm latex, without feeling constrictive. I’ve been in both top and bottom situations involving slippage issues with some 52 and 53mm latex-brands. In fact, there was one point when I totally forgot I had it on and buddy was jacking me off and I thought I was wearing nothing. The second thing I noticed is that even when I became semi-hard instead of a full-on bone is that again, this sucker didn’t budge. I find with latex that if I start to get soft, the condom will easily fall off. This gave me an added boost of confidence.”
Dimitri gives Bare top marks for both topping and bottoming. “When bottoming, I didn’t have that I-just-had-a-condom-in-my-ass after-feeling. For topping, I worked these in a variety of angles and positions with no discomfort, slippage, or damage—angles my uncut penis wouldn’t normally enjoy with a latex condom. I also tried these with a couple of different lubes—both water and oil-based [although it explicitly states on the box that these are not to be used with oil-based lubes so please do this at your own risk] and had no problems.” Also a great feature: no groddy latex odour, so they’re a good option for blowjobs.
Dimitri concludes that he “would and could still use latex in the heat of the moment but if I had time to plan a good safe fuck session, these would be on my list of essentials.”
