Dear Sasha: My husband and I have a fantasy we want to play out that involves me being a high-class escort and him paying for sex. I'm not worried about being able to play the part on an emotional/acting level per se, since I've very successfully played stripper for him (and by the way, past advice you gave to go to clubs and watch girls actually proved the most effective, especially for lap dancing). My concern is absolute legitimacy. I want it to be perfect, to fulfil the fantasy to a T. So, where the hell am I going to take hooker lessons? » Hook Happy

Dear Hook,
What are hooker lessons really? You probably already know how to fuck reasonably well - let's assume any wife who plays stripper games for her man is a righteous tart - so what are you after specifically? Non-incriminating money exchange? Fancy condom-application techniques? How to swoosh in and out of a hotel lobby undetected? Polished boundary discussion?

As luck would have it, and in a move that makes me both apprehensive and elated, the whole sex-positive trend has confiscated all the anti-sex rhetoric that helmed female sexual expression for so long - and just in time for the Internet to provide a free point of exchange. Honestly, who isn't writing a hooker blog these days? Mom, seriously, are you Belle de Jour? For high-track ho moves, this is the one I'd recommend, online at http://belledejour-uk.blogspot.com. Follow her links - she also has good taste in whore Web diaries.

You may also purchase a few years of her edited and compiled blog in the book Belle de Jour: The Intimate Adventures of a London Call Girl. Earlier this year, I read it in a hotel room in a communist country with the news of the Pope's death bleating away on a television in the background - actually a much less outrageous experience than it sounds. See how you can make a perfectly mundane activity seem exciting with a little sex, religion and politics? You may find the book strains to be interesting and clever in much the same way, but it's useful for your purposes nevertheless.

Another good resource is a book called Paying for It, edited by Greta Christina. It's a guide for clients of sex workers conveyed in anecdotal essays. In other words, you're not the only one who has to learn how to behave during this transaction, honey.

My friend Madison, who, like most working girls in North America, had no formal training, gives the most important tip of all: get your money up front and count it. You can do this in the bathroom while you're making sure there's no toilet paper stuck to your labia. And finally, as a film resource: Klute, starring Jane Fonda. Just see if you won't be tempted to show up for your date in a cowl neck sweater, wraparound skirt and Frye boots.

Dear Sasha: My husband has a Prince Albert piercing [a male genital piercing that enters the urethra via the urinary meatus and exits below the glans], and I was wondering if anal sex is safe with it. We haven't tried it since he got the piercing - which is about a year ago - because we haven't been able to find any information regarding anal sex and genital piercings. We both really enjoy a little booty action every now and then, but we want to make sure it is safe for both of us! » P.A. Lovers

Dear Prince Lovers,
Dr. Stephen E. Goldstone in The Ins and Outs of Gay Sex says an especially large ring - like three-ring-binder size - might tear the anal lining, though it seems more likely that the texture of the ring rather than its size would be an issue in this regard. A bacterial infection in the piercing itself is unlikely since your babe's had it for a year, but a good way of dealing with both these concerns is to practice anal sex using a condom with a large receptacle unit at the end, like the Pleasure Plus.

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