Dear Sasha: I have a problem that I didn't even realize was a problem till now. A few months ago, I met a girl who appeared to be crazy about me and we went out on a few dates. She was very open and bold, which suited me just fine. During our conversations, I mentioned that I was uncircumcised. Anyway, we made plans to see each other again the next week, but since that night I never heard from her again. I was concerned that maybe something happened so I tried getting in touch with her, till I realized I had been blown off. I gave up and moved on.

Just last night, one of my friends told me he's seeing this same girl and told me all about her. Right away I knew it was her. He also proceeded to tell me this hilarious anecdote that she had told him about some loser who had blown his chances with her when he had told her he was uncut. I was in shock. Apparently she would have slept with me had I not told her I was uncut. She thought it was nasty that my cock wasn't cut and that she would never wish to see me again. Now what am I supposed to think about this? » AW in Shock

Dear AW,
Listen my fine, foreskinned friend, you are not the one who has a problem. Your friend is the one who has a problem, because he's currently dating a woman so uncouth that she thinks appropriate pillow talk with a new lover is disparaging information about people she dumped because they're uncut. Yes, people have preferences, but foreskins are and should be an ordinary event (frankly, I would be totally turned off if someone told me, in gloating and derisive tones, that they ditched someone they really liked because they had one). Furthermore, there are many women who love, like or are totally ambivalent about foreskins, so don't even worry about it.

Dear Sasha: When my girlfriend and I have sex, she always has at least three or four very powerful orgasms. Usually, by the third or fourth orgasm, she will squirt out liquid from her vagina. Sometimes there's a lot, and it smells kind of acidic. I'm thinking it's urine, she's not sure. I've never been with a woman who could ejaculate, so I have no idea what it is supposed to be like. She is very good to me when I ejaculate, I would like to reciprocate the favour and swallow her too but the thought of drinking pee is somewhat discouraging. » Left Thirsty

Dear Left,
Believe it or not, even one of the most liberal-minded masturbation and female pleasure advocates, Betty Dodson, questions the nature of female ejaculation, a controversial stance to take when your life's work involves being the head of the pussy-positive cheerleading squad. Dodson says on her Web site that, "as for women expelling fluid during orgasm, there has been an ongoing dialogue, debate and an abundance of antidotal [sic] information. But when it comes to science, we are still adrift."

After really wanting to feel confident about the information I've sought out on female ejaculation - both personal and theoretical - I find I still have a lot of unanswered questions, but there is some pretty compelling evidence claiming that the fluid does come from the bladder. Dr Gary Schubach tested seven women who all ejaculated during sex. He catheterized them to isolate the bladder from the urethral sponge (aka the G-spot). As Dodson writes, "The fluid drained from the subject's bladders during sexual arousal and ejaculating orgasms had a reduced concentration of urea and creatinine, which made it significantly different from urine samples collected prior to sexual arousal. He concluded that the expelled fluid or "ejaculate" was an altered form of urine that did indeed come from the bladder. Evidently there was a process going on during sexual excitement that changed the chemical composition of urine."

One thing's certain: wherever it comes from, if your gal's disease-free, a little sip of the brew won't kill you. Think of some of the other things you've willingly imbibed.

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