Dear Sasha: I'm looking to visit a professional dominatrix, but I have concerns about giving up that much control to a person I don't know. I'm also concerned about the legal implication of being caught with a dominatrix. I know that "sexual" is not a practice that most dommes will participate in, but I'm worried that the cops will break in and find me naked and chained spread-eagle to a rack. My question is, what is legal and what is deemed illegal? Can I trust pro dommes whom I find on the Net? » Hog Tied

Dear Hog Tied,
"When people say domination isn't sexual, they may be defining sexual as intercourse. The law has a much broader definition," says Toronto's pre-eminent dominatrix, Patricia Marsh. "If one is advertising penetration by dildos, orgasm games, penis games or intimate body worship, these things are considered sexual. Being tied up and spread-eagled, tortured, beaten or cross-dressed is not considered sexual."

So what you really have to be careful about is what a dominatrix publicly offers, which may be putting her at risk for investigation. "One doesn't need to worry so much about what a pro may do in private with someone she feels comfortable with," says Mistress Marsh. "What the cautious client should be concerned about is what a domme blatantly advertises. Even advertising golden and brown showers is a ‘heat-score' because one of the bawdy house definitions is a place used for indecent acts as defined by community standards. Shitting in someone's mouth may be considered indecent.

"In a society where sex-work laws are archaic, one must practice discretion. That would include, but not be limited to, advertising, the media and telephone." As for giving over control, well of course, this is the nature of this exchange, but for sure you don't want to go with someone who is not properly apprised of or invested in this line of work. "If someone is well established with a track record and a good Web presentation," says Mistress Marsh, "it's only common sense that they are the safer bet."

Dear Sasha: I am a 20-something bisexual man and longtime comic book reader. I have always had a fondness for the Justice League of America and, of course, X-Men. Something about all those beautiful bodies in spandex fighting evil together. When you combine secret identities, tight-fitting clothing and hero-villain-victim scenarios, it gets pretty hot. I was wondering if you or any of your readers might know of any good live-action superhero porn. It can be gay, straight or bi and doesn't have to be based on any existing character. I'm looking for anything with a good storyline, hot sex and lots of bulging outfits. » Severely Under-Porned Earthling Requiring Men and Netherworlds

Dear Severely,
Superdude, I am so with you. I have got the most raging hard-on for Wolverine, and often concoct elaborate fantasies about our smouldering alliance. Of course, I have to be a superhero too, and since it's both unkind and erotically debilitating to imagine myself in spandex, I picture myself as one with a silent film star quality and pertinent styling (powers undetermined, though something Zelig-like, for sure), code name: The Blue Angel.

"The first thing that comes to mind is Splatman, which features a Batman-type character," says my pal Daniel, who manages a video store. Warning: porn films that spoof other films or legends are usually completely ridiculous. If you are looking for something with all the earnest passion and intensity of a real superhero story, you may have a hard time. Mind you, Splatman does feature not just a Batman-type, but a lead actor in a fairly high-quality Batman costume, along with a lead actress in a fairly high-quality Catwoman costume. I stress the fairly high-quality aspect because both of the other adult superhero-themed films I rented (Superchick and Spider Babe), were more about fetish costuming than anything really elaborate and accurate.

As cartoon depictions go, there are hoards of Japanese ones known as Hentai, though, as Daniel says, "none with recognizable Western superhero attributes." Two I would recommend for exceptional content as well as good characters are F-Force, and Venus Five, which includes an excellent female lead who transforms into a buff Norse goddess - with a cock.

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