Dear Sasha: I'm trying to find work doing online pornography and am finding it a little difficult to locate a company that's credible, or not totally sketchy. I'm looking for a place preferably owned by a woman or women that is a bit, ahem, left of centre. Do you have any idea of places a gal like me might find some companies like this? » Ready and Willing

Dear Ready,
Women can be greedy, phony bitches when it comes to business, too, so don't think that female management is an automatic indication that the workplace is going to be like Paradise Island on Wonder Woman. In fact, this is something a lot of male-owned companies use as a veneer for iniquity. Be mindful if a company seems to be broadcasting this too much.

I spoke to Seska, a friend in Montreal who is a self-employed Web girl. Seska's personal sites (www.seska.com, www.seska4lovers.com) do a brisk business, and she herself is an uncommon personality. I would describe her as a sci-fi geek who is also a genuine and playful pervert, and who just happens to look like, gee, her hair smells terrific.

"I'm not sure which field of work she's interested in," says Seska. "If it's for regular work like Webcamming, I don't know of any studios that are woman-run. If she wants to do this work for herself then she can always be her own boss. iFriends [www.ifriends.net] is the biggest network for this kind of work. There are also many studios, but none that I know that are owned or run by a woman. Off the top of my head, I can think of three female-owned and operated porn production companies/paysites. Two are small, personal Web sites that pay for photo submissions: www.nofaux.com and www.vegporn.com, which only takes submissions from serious vegetarians and vegans." Seska, by the way, is a serious vegan. "The third," she continues, "is a porn company that hires models for micro niche projects, like balloons, feet and messy stuff: www.naughtyniche.com."

I was also talking to a Suicide Girl (www.suicidegirls.com) outside of Ciao Edie a few Sundays ago, and she assured me that they are paying more money for photo submissions ($300 U.S.) than they used to, as well as the possibility to make more if you are featured. That's another route you may want to take if you fancy yourself a firebrand.

Dear Sasha: I'm a fairly average, decent-looking 21-year-old woman. Some of my earliest sexual experiences, as well as my first orgasms, were as a teenager with other girls. I grew out of that phase and went on to dating guys, although I still find women attractive. My problem is, with my current guy, sex always felt great but I could never climax. We went to a Halloween party and as a gag we decided to go in identical costumes. All night I got so turned on watching my BF in a French maid's dress; he turned out very pretty. When we got home we didn't even take off our costumes we just attacked each other. For the first time since those early days of experimenting I had an orgasm. We had sex again last night and, nothing. So now I'm wondering, the only time I have an orgasm with a guy is while he's dressed as a woman, could I be gay? » Maid For Me?

Dear Maid,
Let's just say things may not be so clear cut. After all, your boyfriend is still a man under the costume, and all that entails in the biological sense. And you are 21, still pretty much in the initial stages of discovering the complexities of your sexuality, still using expressions like "grew out of that phase" to describe experiences outside of the average heterosexual connection. The good news is, if it turns out you are a sexually open woman into male-to-female cross-dressers, you will never, ever want for sex partners, a clean house or a viable income.

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